Sincerely, Brown Skin
Sincerely, Brown Skin
To Stay or Not To Stay: The Ultimate Choice
Are you ready to be captivated by an enthralling narrative of love and deceit? Tune into this week's episode of Sincerely, Brown Skin where we share a story from one of our listeners and offer a blend of empathetic advice and encouragement. This episode underscores the need to understand the realities of relationships and not get caught up in the media's fairy tale narrative. It reminds us to value our self-worth and not settle for less than we deserve. It's a harsh reality, but an important lesson to remember in our journey of love and self-discovery.
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Welcome to Sincerely Brown Skin, a podcast where I'm diving into the intimate areas of your life, on all things relationships, personal growth and self-love. I'm your host, quen, and my goal each week is to provide you with a little advice, a spoonful of encouragement and a sincere reminder that, honey, you are a wonder, you are magical, you are worthy. And then some. Now let's get this quick slide, for goodness. Hey y'all, and welcome to another week of Sincerely Brown Skin with Quen. I am going to do things a little differently this week, something I've never done, but the opportunity presented itself recently and I said why not? So I received an email from a listener asking for advice on a situation that is occurring in her life right now and, with her permission, I'm going to share a little snippet of her story with you guys. She tells me that there is this guy whom she's been seeing for a while now. They met online, kept the conversation on there for about a month and then, after which, decided to exchange numbers and meet in person. Ever since meeting, they have been spending every day with each other in complete and total bliss. If they're not at his place, they are over at her place, while she goes on to say that, with the holidays approaching, she was eager to ask him about how he felt or if he would even be interested in spending Thanksgiving day with her and her family. But she was scared because she didn't know if it was too soon to meet the folks, right? But she pleased her fearside and came up with this whole plan to basically butter him up. She got him tickets with great seats to one of his favorite teams, went out to eat at one of his favorite restaurants afterwards and then came home and, you know, did the whole whoop-de-whoop. Well, as they were laying there after having a good time, she decides to ask him I would love for us to spend Thanksgiving day together and meet my folks. How do you feel about that? He turns on his side, facing her, caressing her face, and says baby, I don't think I'll be able to do that. I don't think it'll be a good idea. She then goes on to ask him well, why not? You haven't said anything about having any other plans. He then says, after taking a deep breath I'm going to be with my family. She says okay then. Well, how about I spend the first half of the day with my family and then I can come and spend the second half with you and your family. He says. When I say my family, I'm actually referring to my wife and my in-laws.
Speaker 1:She says she had no clue that this man, whom she's been dating for all of these months, was in an union with someone else. According to her, there were no signs no signs of another woman at his place, no pictures of another woman on social media. They were always on the phone with each other when they were not together. She goes on further to say that he was even on board with her, posting pictures of him on her social media and tagging him, while one random day she receives a direct message from a woman who said that she was this man's wife. She tells her how long they've been married, they have a child on the way and that this was not the first time that he's done something like this. The wife then tells the young lady I am not in a position to leave my husband. We've had our trying moments, but our story is not over, so please stop all contact with him. The young lady then tells me that, even with receiving all of this newfound knowledge within a few days time, that she does not want to leave this man because he gives her all the attention that no other man has in all of her history of dating. She says that there is a future with him because he said that his marriage has been on the brinks for a while.
Speaker 1:She ends the email with the following question People divorce their spouses all the time and then meet their soulmate. How do I know that this is not one of those situations for me? Hmm, sweetie, thou shall not covet someone who belongs to someone else. It does not matter what sweet nothings that this man is whispering in your ears. He is not divorced and, from the sounds of it, nor is he legally separated from his wife. Things may look good now, but it will not end well. You may think you are getting the love of your life, but really all you're getting is a cheater and a liar who has formed a bad pattern of habit and patterns. They don't change overnight.
Speaker 1:I know the media may sometimes present a fairy tale storyline of the man ultimately leaving his wife and going to the other woman, but why even put yourself face to face with the karma that comes along with that? If he has lied to you about this all of these months, who knows what else he could be lying about later in the future. Baby, don't bring that unnecessary energy into your life. Leave that man where he be with his aspetant wife, because I truly don't believe that the one God has for you, your person, your soulmate, will be wrapped in package in such a way. I'm not saying that he will be perfect and come with no flaws, but I am saying that he will be unattached and able to offer 100% of him to you.
Speaker 1:I am claiming that for you right now. My love, sincerely Brown Skin. Thank you so much. Felicity to Sincerely Brown Skin. Make sure you share with your friend girls and hit that subscribe button so that you don't miss any of the conversation I would love to hear from you. So if you enjoyed the show, be sure to leave me a review. Thanks for stopping by and until next time, may everything that concerns you be covered in favor in your week ahead. Bye y'all.