Sincerely, Brown Skin
Sincerely, Brown Skin
Unspoken Truth: You Make Time for What You Want
Ever felt the sting of neglect by someone you hold dear? It's a hard pill to swallow, but people truly make time for whom they choose. It's not a reflection of your worth, but a testament to their priorities. Come join me as we debunk the complexities of this deeply personal issue in this episode of Sincerely, Brown Skin.
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Welcome to Sincerely Brown Skin, a podcast where I'm diving into the intimate areas of your life, on all things relationships, personal growth and self-love. I'm your host, quen, and my goal each week is to provide you with a little advice, a spoonful of encouragement and a sincere reminder that, honey, you are a wonder, you are magical, you are worthy. And then some. Now let's get this quick slide, for goodness. Have you ever experienced the disappointment of feeling neglected by someone that you care about? Perhaps you have found yourself questioning why certain individuals prioritize specific relationships over others. You know there is this common and often perplexing occurrence that can leave anyone, even the best of us, feeling hurt and uncertain. But you want to know the simple truth People make time for who they want to make time for. It's an old but ever so true statement. Whether it's a significant other, a friend or a family member, we all have individuals in our lives whom we choose to put first. And please believe, I know firsthand that it can be challenging to accept, but the reality is that we cannot compel someone to make time for us if they are not inclined to do so themselves. In the same realm, it's important to remember that this lack of attention doesn't diminish our value or worthiness of love and consideration. Rather, it just reflects the other person's priorities and values. Now you may ask why do people choose to allocate their time the way that they do? Well, I have the reasons on why I think that they do. Number one people have diverse priorities in life and they naturally make time for activities and individuals that hold significance for them. Whether it's enjoying moments with family, pursuing personal interests or something related to work, or simply enjoying a long time, personal priorities are going to always guide our choices. Number two if you find yourself in a situation where you are experiencing consistent cancellations, delayed responses via texts or phone calls, those type of behaviors can signal that other priorities take precedence over their relationship with you. Number two I believe that time is often dedicated to those with whom there's an emotional connection and building emotional bonds through things such as shared experiences, open communication and mutual trust. These things strengthen this connection. Now, on the contrary, if there isn't a strong emotional tie, the effort to spend time together may very well be lacking.
Speaker 1:No-transcript. Individuals tend to carve out time for those with whom they share mutual benefits, be it in terms of emotional support, intellectual harmony or let's be honest here a physical attraction, it's just naturally given higher priority when it is perceived as mutually enriching, where relationships characterized by one-sidedness or feeling tired some often lead to a diminished effort in spending time together. You know, my mind brings me back to a time when a person I was dating many years back consistently found reasons to avoid spending time together Phone calls when I answered, text messages ignored. And when there was a response it was an unrelated response and when we did manage to meet up fatigue, it just conveniently set in. However, it became evident that when his friends back in he would easily spring into action, just brimming with energy. Child just had me amazed every single time.
Speaker 1:But what is essential here is to recognize and understand that everyone has their own priorities and needs and it's entirely acceptable if someone doesn't make time for you. Yeah, I said it and I will say it again it's entirely acceptable if someone doesn't make time for you. It's called not taking it personal. It's one of the four agreements. Instead, redirect that energy towards fostering robust relationships with those who genuinely value your presence and everything that you encompass.
Speaker 1:Now, I know that it's heartbreaking when you see someone who is just quote-unquote too busy for you, but you have to accept it, honey. There is nothing to do about it. It's nothing personal towards you. It's just how the cookies are crumbling for that particular situation. When we understand this, we could then see that it's not that they don't care, it's just that we are not a priority for them, and that is okay. Don't try to fit this person and question why this or why that girl? You are running yourself crazy. All you can do is accept reality for what it is and keep it moving, because they don't deserve all of this energy that you are putting towards them anyway.
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